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Today Hunt and I filed for divorce. We made this decision
together a few months ago but wanted to finalize the sale of our home before we
filed. We have been married 16 years.
First and foremost: the kids are okay. We told them soon
after we made our decision and they took it very well. After the tears and hugs
we all went to eat dinner together and talked about the future with smiles and
hopeful thoughts.
Second: Hunt and I are okay. We are happy and content. We
are friends and have each other’s best interest at heart. We truly do.
There is no drama or angst.
I am the one who did the actual filing. I printed off the
papers, signed three copies for the court and walked to the courthouse. I
stepped to the district clerk window and handed in the papers. She looked back
at me, “It’s uncontested?”, she asked surprised. I responded yes and took a
seat awaiting further instructions.
There were two other women in the waiting area. One was
obviously a lawyer in a skirt with a briefcase and sensible heels. The other
woman, her client, was an older woman who wore her hair pulled back in a
ponytail. She was dressed nicely and without make-up. I gave her a simple smile
and she stared back at me with tears streaming down her face. The tears didn’t
stop when she looked away from me and stared straight ahead.
I realized again how lucky I am to have Hunt by my side in
this new journey and not on an opposing side. They called my name and I was
directed to go upstairs to another office to finish the filing. I looked back
at the unknown woman and walked to her. I touched her folded hands and told her
I would pray for her. She looked up through her tears and said, “thank you and
I for you”.
Twenty minutes and a check later the paperwork was filed.
The county employee was kind and empathetic as she explained next steps and
instructions. Our divorce is final in 60 days. We will see the judge on the 61st
day to complete the process.
I called Hunt as I left the courthouse. Now it was me with
the tears in my eyes and a lump in my stomach. We talked and assured each other
we will be okay. It sucks but it is what it is, and we will not let this
destroy our family. We are redefining our family, not ending it.
To be clear, there will be no Team Wendy or Team Hunt. There
is ONLY Team Foster and we ask that you stay on it and continue to support us.
